What is the point of setting unrealistic goals? Is it for the better or just another disappointment?
We all have things that we want to achieve in life. Sometimes we call them dreams and sometimes we call them goals. The difference between a dream and a goal is the plan to get there. A plan to get there is the first step towards manifesting your dream into a goal.
But not always what we dream makes it so far as actually becoming a goal. We call dreams childish and eventually as with childhood, we outgrow them. Dreams tend to have such an ending because of something we call “being realistic”.
A funny coincidence, pessimistic people, when asked tend to characterize themselves as realistic rather than pessimistic.
What does that say to you? Is it “realistic” to give up on your dream in order to set an achievable goal? Or is it that our surroundings lead us to a pessimism that dictates what we can and cannot do?
Lets find out!
The fear of FAILURE!
There is this saying that the moment you are ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle happens.
I find that very accurate!
The reason for that is that you are no longer afraid of failing right before you give up. Not being afraid to fail will liberate the way you think, the way you decide and the way you take action.
All of a sudden you have nothing to lose and all of the sudden you have everything to gain. So play the winning game and instead of being afraid of losing, get ready to win.
Ask yourself who exactly you are trying to please. Is it your expectations that you are trying to protect so much, or is it the expectations of other people on you?
What is failing really going to cost you? If you are trying to get to something or achieve something, chances are that you don’t already have it. If you already had succeeded on your goals you would be aiming towards something different.
In other words, your fear of failure is about failing to obtain something that you don’t have right now.
Exactly why failing and losing is not the same thing!
If you fail, you don’t lose because you never had it in the first place. You are simply taken back to the starting point to try again. You only lose the opportunities that you never tried for, you never lose for trying and failing!
Unrealistic goals, what are they?
Fancy words and scary scenarios, is the best way to describe the way our world works.
What unrealistic even means? Unrealistic based on what? Well, I guess if my goal was to learn how to fly by moving my hands really fast, that would be pretty unrealistic. Other than that, I think it is safe to say that we see some pretty unrealistic things happening every day.
People break world records, artists who started small become the next big hit, and a new simple invention solves a problem for generations.
An unrealistic goal is something you cannot achieve right here right now. But unless you are planning on staying exactly the same, never grow and never evolve, I think you would be safe setting some pretty unrealistic goals.
By doing just that, you point at a certain direction. You put your self on the path that will get you the knowledge, the skill and the abilities that your unrealistic goal requires.
By setting unrealistic goals, you are telling yourself that there is some work to be done. Every time you work on your impossible goal, it becomes a little more possible. Step by step you become better and you allow your self to become more of you.
An unrealistic goal is nothing more than the distance you need to travel to get there and its a straight line, no shortcuts!
How unrealistic goals can hurt
We dream, we plan, we try, we fail. Nothing wrong with that.
Dreaming big can be a little scary at times. The pressure that we put upon ourselves is very real and can be hard to deal with at times. Setting unrealistic goals is the same. But only if you go after them without a plan.
Just like a big dream, a big goal should consist of smaller, easier goals. This is called planning.
Once you have your first steps planned out, everything starts to look a little more possible.
If you only have one big idea of success and no plan in-between, your metrics are pretty shallow. You can only measure your success on whether you are there or not.
If you plan out your journey in small achievable steps, not only can you see and measure your progress, you can also add or remove parts that will help you get there faster.
Do not let failure overwhelm and dishearten you. Failure means that you tried and discovered a method that does not work. That alone can be critical on your decision making from now on.
Beware of your surroundings
Unrealistic goals can also fall victim of your surroundings. Looking around you and realizing that your goals are so far from where you are right now can be tough. People can also be critical of your goals and dreams.
What they did not achieve in their lives feels terrible when someone else is even thinking of making it happen.
Don’t let anyone “protect you” by disheartening you to follow something realistic. They just don’t want you to have a chance to achieve something they never could.
Maybe why sometimes you should consider how to be alone.
Just like anything, it is not one thing that will lead you to fail or to succeed. Unrealistic goals can have a big impact on the way that you work on yourself and the things that you dare attempt in the end of the day.
Having them does not mean achieving them, but it also does not mean that just because you have set a goal, your life will have no meaning unless you achieve it.
If you have a goal, go after it with all your might. The journey ahead is the only thing able to guide you towards or far away from that goal. Remember that the more you try, the more you learn, figuring out that it was not what you wanted after all is part of your journey.
Staying true to yourself will be the thing that will really matter at the end of the day. You might also find interesting the guide to a winning mind!